In the book of Mark, Chapter 12, starting at Verse 28, in response to a question, Jesus said that the greatest commandment was “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all they heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.”
He was not asked about the second greatest commandment, but He gave it anyway, because it is so important. “And the second is like, namely this, Thou Shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.”
Let’s notice what this does not mean. It does not mean that you are to put your neighbor’s interest above your own. You are to love your neighbor “as yourself”. That means it’s good to love yourself. Loving yourself is only a problem when you love yourself too much, to the extreme, when you put your interest above the interest of God, or your interest to the detriment of your neighbor.
To seek our own good is not sinful. Seeking our own good is not a result of the fall of mankind, not a result of sin. It seems that God gave us a nature to seek our own good – it was necessary, pure and the right thing to do. We are never required to be “selfless” – although sometimes we may in fact tend to perform selfless acts in the interest of the good of our neighbor.
What things would give you a better life if you started doing them? What things are you doing that you know that if you stopped doing you would have a better life? Ask yourself these questions sincerely, and listen openly and honestly to know the answer.
Start practicing doing / not doing those things in small steps, do 5% better. Ask God’s help and guidance. Yes, you will fail, you will relapse, you will have set backs. Don’t give up. Don’t be discouraged. Start over. And over. And over. Try persistently. In the long run you will see improvement, you will see success. It will change your life.
Yes, love yourself.